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I didn't mean to ignore you or push you aside, though I know those feelings very well myself. I guess I don't know how to help when all I can offer is my own experience of getting through the pain by talking about it and feeling it and working it through. I offered my perspective as an alternative to combining the issue of self-soothing and getting love from our T's because they really are separate issues and I thought maybe it would help to see things more clearly if the two issues weren't mixed up together. But I don't know how to give you hope that you can go from getting love from your T to giving it to yourself because you will still need it from other people even after you finish therapy. In my opinion T's sometimes make a mistake when they omit that part and tell patients that the goal is for them to love themselves. If that's all we really need in life we might as well be amoebas.
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