Preacher, I just want to clarify that my T does NOT only say that I need to give love to myself. In fact, last session she specifically said we have to work on how I can get more touching in my life. She is always bringing my family into the conversation. I need to work on my marriage more. T and I know that. I need to be sure to connect with my kids and grandchildren. (Yes, if you didn't know it I'm THAT old) But I still have child parts that need love, and T says I can love those parts of me. It's the basis of Internal Family Systems work. So, again, I agree with you. It's not at all that I didn't want to hear your perspective. Maybe I just wanted some s.

bpd2--thanks! I know I have to ask for it. But my H can't be "Mommy" to me. It just feels better when T is the one to give it to me. I do have some women in my life who give good hugs, though, including a daughter. I think maybe I still have to work through some stuff from my childhood, and that's what is in the way. s to you too.