Absolutely not, I think NO one would want you to be in a dark place. If therapy is bringing you to that place, that is a problem. I think people are saying, there's no need to knock LCSWs since many are quite skilled. But there are also many unskilled practitioners out there. Your experience is the judge -- therapy should improve your daily life, not make things worse.

I have to say, there are a couple problematic things. You are a person in need of skills for your daily life, so you can make friends and deal with your overwhelming feelings. It seems this T is not teaching you anything, she's mostly just listening to you struggle with your feelings, not giving much guidance at all except "you should make friends." Is that right?

If that's right, then I see that your therapy is not therapy, it's counseling. Counseling is fine for people who just need someone to talk to so they can sort through things. But it sounds like you are in need of more intensive, directive therapy, like DBT, ACT, etc. I myself definitely found NO benefit in counseling -- if I am just given total free reign of the session, with nothing but endless positive support from my T, I will get nowhere! Some people say "All you need is love" but I think that's horsesh##. It sounds like although you are very attached to this T, she doesn't know how to help you. You've brought your concerns to her and she hasn't helped you move in the right direction. You've been seeing her for a long time and you are stagnant.

If you feel you have BPD, DBT is a great therapy that helps people with BPD a GREAT deal in daily life skills. I know you went to the one DBT psychologist and you guys just fought, but maybe you just didn't click with that T. You said you'd be starting DBT with the new T soon. Why haven't you? It concerns me that your T didn't start using DBT right away if she thinks you have BPD?

It's usually best to tell a T that you've thought this over and are feeling this way. Sometimes there is a solution to the problem. It's sooo difficult to start over with a new T. It's nice to work things out with the one you have. So I would start there. Really lay it on the line, try to put all your cards on the table and see if she can come up with a solution that makes sense to YOU.

If you walk out of that talk still feeling like she doesn't get it, I would look for a new T, pronto. This is YOUR health we're talking about -- you deserve a T that will help you make progress!