You have been given a bunch of ideas and evaluations! Now mine is quite favorable towards your present therapist, from what you have said. I like what rainbow said:

"You say your T is supportive and giving but will not love you back in any way. Is it possible that you can reframe what she is giving you as a kind of love?"

Being in so much pain, though, is not really that helpful in therapy, I think. Maybe you can work through that with your T if you tell her there is so much distress; maybe she needs to try to talk through it more with you, to explain more what she thinks is happening.