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Originally Posted by chicken_wing
i've asked my therapist for some of arguably the most ridiculous things, which were of course denied, and i have told her some of the most shameful things about me. i am confident though that she doesn't judge me. i am the only one judging myself harshly in the wrong.
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I like to analyze things, even when others don't like it. So here is my analysis of the mechanism of this: if you judge yourself quickly enough, you can sidestep the judgement that you anticipate coming from others, the terrible feelings that you get when your desire to interact with them is blocked by their responses. It is easier to anticipate those terrible feelings than to be aware your desire to connect, and then have it suddenly rebuffed.