Again, I'm not disagreeing, Preacher. But I did the same thing with my former T for 5 years because she said she had to treat me that way. I was miserable because she made me want more and more of what she couldn't give me. I was always trying to get her to say she cared about me, and she told me I was manipulating her when I called her just to get "a little support." Her method of treating my "inner adult" did not work. She admitted when I quit that she was sorry she hadn't solve my "attachment problem."

I had other Ts in the past who didn't believe in touching also. They were okay, but why am I still in therapy now? Since my T held my hand, I've been asking for more touching from my H, and have been more open to hugging friends.

But I see your point. I am terrified of my T dying or moving away, but I felt that way about all my Ts, no matter what their orientation. I attached to them all! I had to keep replacing them, which is my pattern.

It's a dilemma for me. Thanks for your input.