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I wouldn't have had much success with your former T either, Rainbow. She sounds much too rigid in her approach -- too dismissive of the child parts who needed to be heard. My current T believes an attachment and some limited dependence (but not an unhealthy dependence) are necessary and he believes all parts, including child parts, need to be heard. But there is a difference between having a T who will speak to them and listen to them, and having a T who will also attempt to meet their need for the "good parent" who will provide unconditional love. I think they do need to be heard and accepted in therapy, and your former T would not allow that. It doesn't surprise me that her insistence upon treating the "inner adult" was met with so much resistance -- you can't heal by being forced to deny those parts of yourself.
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