No question, fins, you are right. I think perhaps that men find it harder to conceptualize their emotional difficulties. In general, men are less verbal than women, not just externally but internally as well. I think that what you might call "emotional reasoning" is more difficult for men. I'm talking about the never-ending internal monolog that continually rehashes pain and bad feelings, trying to come up with solutions or at least explanations that will permit a person to turn his/her attention to other things. There's more of that in women than in men, I think. as a matter of fact there are confimed studies on women and how they deal with emotions vs. men. sometimes i wish i was a man cause you guys don't get burrowed deep in your emotions. i struggle with this all the time. have triggers that can set that ball rolling.And if you're really out to lunch, a state in which I've spent most of my life, you just can't figure anything out until a brilliant T, like I now have, starts to point things out like a guide on a tour bus. Take care!