Just reading this post and the responses. Take some deep breaths here. You don't need to make big decisions and changes right now. Sometimes we take on more than is ours to take on.

Love your bf, focus on that and your life and in time, this situation will work itself out. Maybe with your help, maybe not.

But in any case, I can relate to your anxiety and your view of feeling stuck. Just today I did everything I set out to and got no results, but as the evening wore on, I found that a lot of things we hold onto when if we let go, and allow things to happen, faith is strengthened and we are the better for it.

Don't expect miracles from yourself or your bf or his neice overnight. Take things one step at a time.

Sending you big safe hugs.