Hello Jennifer,

I can understand how you are concerned. I agree with Skully and I think Skully hit on some very important points, especially the unresolved issues which would disincline him to want to invest anything when he is not considered or considered important enough for them to make an effort.

I honestly don't think he shut down on you; if you re-read what you wrote, by your explanation he gave you the reason which was their not making an effort, and that he didn't want to deal with his father, and didn't want to go into why. He gave you enough information and wanted the matter ended at that.

As you grow together and show him the consideration his family did not, you will find that he responds to that in kind. He did make it clear that it was the lack of care and consideration from his family which is the cause of his feelings; he isn't just saying it for no reason. He is asserting his feelings nothing more.

Please don't be too concerned or stirred up, you could find as you grow to know some of his family that you feel the same way about them. I know I couldn't love DJ's family if they didn't love him, but because they show him unconditional love, I am able to love them that way. He is just wonderful to me so if they had been mean to him I would want to know why yes, but not to the point that I would pry; I'd wait until he was ready to discuss it.

Give him some credit hon, he didn't arc up or get nasty, he didn't turn on you and put you down.

Rhiannon