Something just came to my mind, this thread brought up thoughts that some people want to be loved and are open to it and seek it while others are not. I know that I lean on the side of not openly or willingly seeking love but I can give it out. Receiving love is sort of embarrassing for me. Hmmmmmm......... and embarrassment is really shame and I can certainly figure out where that shame would come from - from having a narcissistic mom who gave nothing but her physical duties of motherhood. I must have felt shamed when I sought love from her? Good stuff to know.....

Sorry Rainbow for highjacking your thread, it just came to mind with this debate of who wants/needs love in therapy and who doesn't. (I've had some clients who were so easy to love because they sought it and accepted it and I see people here who are the same way and others who are the opposite).