well here goes, we are conditioned by our own life experiences resulting perhaps in false beliefs stemming from that. they often times skew our present thinking by our previous perception of what "IS", in the now. it doesn't mean our responses to present events are truths because we've embedded a false emotion/reaction/fact/belief about self. in depressed ppl it is often old events and emotions that cause the same reaction/belief about ourselves in the present causing a distorted reaction/belief. albert ellis, phd wrote a guide to rational living to address how we can toss the false belief with a rational thought instead of digging up and reponding as we did before to a similar incident.
the byz is saying the same thing when she states she will not allow false beliefs by others to define her in the now. i believe if i am correct re her that her response is self actualizing.
i'm not sure if i'm on the right track. hope the byz responds if i am incorrect in interpeting part of what she said.