Well thank you for sharing your story with me. I understand your trying to help by telling me about your experience since it is somewhat similar. However it makes me feel like your saying there is something wrong with me for not wanting my bf's neice living with us. I feel like your saying i'm not trying hard enough to get to know her or to understand why she acts the way she does. It really doesn't have much to do with whether i like her or not. I don't want anyone else in my home except me and my boyfriend. I have a problem with having to deal with someone else being in my home. Even if it were my own neice it would be bothering me. I have issues with having someone else in my space and being there around me all the time. I know that may be hard for you to understand if that doesn't bother you. I think that it is difficult for many people to understand. I'm the type of person that needs to be alone alot and i'm a very private person and i didn't want people to know i wasn't working or that my home is a mess, or that i sleep alot, I don't want to have to talk or have someone talk to me or question me. I'm used to it being me and my bf and that is the way i like it. You still may not understand or think well you need to compromise for your bf's sake. Many people think that way. Some of my friends don't understand me and don't agree with me which is why i can't vent to them. I think i shouldn't have come on this forum and vented about this issue because i realize alot of people just can't understand where i'm coming from. Alot of people just think i'm being selfish. I am just really having a difficult time with my living situation and my relationship with my bf and again, i needed to vent but i think maybe i shouldn't have because i needed to hear supportive words and when i hear people say i'm not thinking of my bf or his neice it makes me feel badly about myself and it hurts my feelings. I know that is not what you intended its not what anyone intended but that is how i feel. I just don't even want to discuss it anymore but i do appreciate you taking the time to tell me about your experience i know you were trying to help and i'm glad that things worked out well for you.