why does he have to pay her the 60 per visit along with child support? is their divorce final? be glad he is only paying 1000 a month for 4 small kids! child care alone is probably more than that.

I will tell you about my brothers situation many years ago that still affects the family. his ex would have him arrested every time he went to pick up his daughter. he stopped going to see her when she was about 8. she will be 37 in Feb. His other children knew nothing of her until recently. This very very sweet young lady hurts so bad even today. she can't understand all the reasons he stopped seeing her. The one thing I can tell you from this is to not let him stop his relationship with his children. the money stuff can be taken back to court. and for you hon....it takes alot of understanding in a relationship like this and if you don't feel like you can handle it it would be best to get out of it now. it will be like this until they are grown and he no longer has to pay it. in the end if you love him and the kids it is well worth the effort.