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Nov 30, 2010, 10:37 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi Alyssa - Perhaps you stay because you know he's safe. By saying he's safe, I mean that you don't have to make any committment to him. He's already "taken" so you can basically have your cake and eat it too. You're "playing house" with a married man, but you don't have to put in any work like you do in a marriage. Or perhaps you think you can't do better than him, which you KNOW isn't true but your mind tells you otherwise.
This is definitely not healthy -- but think about this --- HE IS USING YOU. I hope you don't think he "loves" you because he doesn't. If he did, he wouldn't have married that other girl. Sure, he tells you he does, but he HAS to in order to get his "fringe benefits." He doesn't know what love IS. You're being used, and unless you want to continue being used, get out of this sick relationship and look for someone who deserves you.
There is someone out there for you -- someone who will NOT take you for granted, who will NOT use you, will NOT cheat. Let this bozo go. He's not worth your time. You deserve a new start in life - you've wasted enough time. God bless and best of luck. Hugs, Lee 
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