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broken_hearted · Dec 01, 2010, 08:59 PM

Hi Melanie.... Took me forever to figure out how to find you. I'm still not sure how I did it. I accidently deleted the notice that came to my email address. But I am glad I did find you.

Have you ever heard of the book "CoDependant No More"? I forget who the writer is...... "Bradshaw" comes to mind but not for sure. My T from a long time ago had me read it. If you do let me know what you think. I should read it again actually.

I learned the hard way hon, you can't change a man. We can't make them understand, we can't make them see what they are doing to themselves or to those around us. Only he can help himself and until he hits rock bottom he won't. When he wants and opens his heart to God and others around him who love him only then will he get the help he needs.

I struggle with Anger terribly. Our couples counselor has me seeing someone else at the same time to help me work through the pain, anger and sadness that my Husband has caused. I don't think I can ever trust him. He has and continues to break trust.

I turned 53 in Oct. I can't believe it because I feel 30. Used to feel 25 but I'm feeling older now. ha ha The stress I am under is literally aging me.

I have to go but know you are not alone. You have a new friend.

Take care and write me any time. ........... broken_hearted

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Originally Posted by Artsywoman45

Thanks for writing again. It feels so good to not feel alone. I am glad you have a good counselor. This site is great and you will get used to it. It takes time unless you are a gen x! I am 47! Today I felt better, but still felt alone. It also dawned on me how codependent I am being. I was looking at drug addiction symptons of meth and he has them. It is so bad. He makes me sad, but I can't help him I know this. I do not understand how he could do that drug, but it makes sense how he is acting and looks. It still does not excuse how horrid he is treating me and his mother etc. It sounds bad, but I enjoyed yelling at him! We have to yell sometime!