Hi laur88...so sorry things didn't work out for you
You've chosen a vocation that is full of disappointments and is often unfair. I hope you will be able to take things at face value - when someone else gets a part you wanted, remind yourself that it isn't personal. It's possible that the director was just trying to be sensitive to your feelings; You are passionate about theatre, and so maybe your other emotions are just as intense. I don't know how many times I've been convinced of someone's motive and been completely wrong. Maybe it's the BP or maybe it's me, but I believe the worst even though I would have to be a mind reader to really know what someone's motive is.

LaraLynn had a good suggestion; if you are willing to do the lesser jobs or take the lesser roles, you will have more opportunities to do the roles you really want. Do the things that will make you memorable in the next audition.

Sorry this is so long..I just understand how you feel and what it feels like to be rejected after a really good audition. Learning to accept the rejections is important, because in the business of entertaining, rejections happen a lot. Sooo... break a leg