I know the section about this is closed but can I just say that my Husband many years ago was diagnosed as having a personality disorder, the Psychotherapist told me to get out of the marriage as he would never change !!I tried for many years from the beginning of our marriage to get help with him, never ever having suffered my parents quarreling let alone my Dad smashes things up at a whim.I was in love with my husband then,I learnt things about his childhood from my S.I.L. my Husband never has talked about his childhood only to say it was happy, not true as was told by many relations of his what life they all had.His Mother died when he was 12& his Father was carrying on with his next wife to be when his Mother was dying !I thought that because he has such an unhappy childhood, I would try to help him,nothing ever changed if I said the wrong thing to him he'd smash something what ever he could see, physical violence & mental abuse was the norm to me, he cared not a jot to what other people thought of him,still doesn't, I actually cant help him any more staying first for my children then when he realized that I had enough he'd give me the sorry sweet tail etc fell for it each time...God knows why, he has ruined our lives, all of my children have suffered! What was wrong with me staying..I am sick of trying, he wont accept anything is wrong with him its every one else, me as no one else is here now, but I am out of this marriage at my age I am scared but no one can tell me any more that I should stay but live separately as many have including relations...it does not work, he is controlling me even now, waiting for our house to sell its me that has to keep going out to escape him, NO life this is & I want a life that is peaceful, so know that these people who have this can not change he has never made any effort to get help or when I have tried never does what he is supposed to do. Wish me luck my friends I am going to need it, but know that peace awaits me .