Thank you all for your replies...

Myself, i think _sky was merely saying that DD does need to be conducted 'differently' than the rest of this site because of what i said in one of my other posts...the membership is varied in the other forums...but here it is varied and also varied inside each member... plus we all have rather horrific histories that have brought us where we are today and so have more triggers than do many other members of this site... the main things that need to be different are that we need to be extra careful in what we say and how we say it (not that we should hide our true selves) so that we can be sure not to unnecessarily hurt people who have been given more than their share of pain. i think that's all she meant.

It's not so much 'advanced' posting that is the cause of pain as it is posts that do not take into account how their words may be received by others here.

I'd like to think that all of us here are 'advanced' in healing simply because we're taking active steps to find that healing.

regardless, Myself, you are right on in that the point of this post is to PLEASE use it ONLY to make efforts in reaching out to others by admitting to our own faults and shortcomings.

This is NOT for people to ingest a lot of self-blame... just a place where we can safely say "i'm sorry" and "i still care" without going into any real specifics or anything. It is the concern and caring for the well-being of others as well as understanding attitudes toward others that I am looking for here... not for blame or guilt or condemnations of any sort.

Just good kind caring people taking the time to remember the fact that it is the members who make this forum so special. Each and every single one of the members, no matter what their background or ethnicity, religion or dx... all of us.

(((((((((((((everyone)))))))))))))))))


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