Yes. There was always disfunction.

Growing up, with my other brother being as violent as he was, we easily fell into a habit of lying and covering up what it was 'really like' at our house. It was mostly just my close friends that knew.

So, in a way, my parents have no trouble just turning a blind eye to it and acting oblivious. It's what we've always done. My brother kicked my mom in the face and gave her a nasty black eye when he was 10... I can't remember what lie they made up for that one, but I know they never told anyone that he did it. That was just the way it was.

So now? I think they were certainly relieved to hear me say 'I do not want to discuss this with you any more. I am not talking about it, the end.' As far as they are concerned... 'Sexual abuse? What sexual abuse???'