I have read letters with interest, as I am in process of splitting up, well have really been living a separate life from my Husband for a few years now in the same house!! Very dificult, he has been diagnosed with a behavior problem many years ago & I have struggled to carry on life with him for along while, what ever I do is wrong, saying the wrong thing in the wrong voice or attitude will set his temper off,or the sulks etc etc.But when I have tackled him & tried to divorce him then its all turned on to me that its my fault etc etc. he's torn up the papers for divorce pleaded with me that he'll change so many times & now I am at the end of my tether I cant live like thsi any more, as they say walking on egg shells is awaful but thats all I have ever known.Away from him I am another person, my normal happy self & hate coming back to the house& always there is him as he never goes out, well only infrequently.I am so in despair, but certainly not depressed either, just worried about what is ahead of me. Baring he is 10 years older than me & I married him when I was 18...