((((((((googley)))))) please dont be offended but they sound awful and toxic!!! what would be the benefits/payoffs of subjecting yourself to more of their abuse? so what its a "holiday"? its in all reality just another day and for that you deserve to not be guilted,intimidated or have to live in fear. we cant choose our family of origin but we darn sure can choose to not spend time with them!!!! we wish we could make the decision for you but ultimately that will have to come from you. we hope you will very carefully weigh the pros-if there are any-and cons of this obvious manipulation. we care about you very much and only want whats best for you and to have the happiness and peace of mind you deseve