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Dec 03, 2010, 09:41 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi - This is probably a good time to seek counseling so you don't make the same mistake again. But also to help you grieve for the loss of the marriage. You DO grieve, even if the marriage is a BAD one. Many of us need help getting thru the divorce, as it is a huge loss.  I was divorced after 26 years - and while *I* instigated the divorce because he was mentally and psychologically abusive, it was still a lot of years to lose. Most of those years were bad - so I went to counseling and it did me a WORLD of good!
Also, you need to fully FEEL those feelings. Don't try to stuff them away because they will manifest themselves in some other way - perhaps anger or depression. If you feel like crying, then cry. If you feel like screaming, go in your bedroom and scream into a pillow!!! (I've done that LOTS) But get whatever you're feeling OUT. Just please don't murder the man. LOL 
I wish you the best of luck. You may be surprised that you feel a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. It was extremely FREEING to me. But my ex was very very controlling too.  Take care and God bless. Hugs, Lee
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