Thank you Duchess.

One thing with my dad is that he always seeks attention and pity and has practically made a career out of it. He lies constantly, blatant nasty lies about his health and other things. He sabotages things, for example intentionally mismanaging his money, so that he can extract pity from the people around him. It took me many years to realize this after trying to help him with his situation only to discover that he was lying to me and sabotaging the help I was trying to provide, and then after catching him in outright lies to other people about me, about his situation, and about what role I played in his situation.

I tried sincerely to work through these issues with him and improve our relationship many years ago, on several occasions. Each time, rather than working toward a true understanding of one another, I found him again resorting to more lies and manipulation to bring me "closer" which instead pushed me further and further away. Eventually I realized that for my own health and sanity, the only option I had was to remove myself from his circle of lies and keep a good distance from him.

The angering thing is that his lies and deceipt have not only affected himself but also my mother. At least I was able to get out of the house and be on my own. My mother had to suffer his financial sabotage and his lack of any sincere attempt to get help for his propensity to horde things (I remind you again of the current state of his house at http://www.idexter.com