My best friend in real life has started to act distant with me. She is limiting the time she spends with me and I'm not at all sure why.

How do I ask her without her becoming defensive? She still wants us to come for Christmas, says I'm like a sister to her and we have been very close over the years. I don't want her to befriend me just because she thinks she is hurting my feeling, but I don't want to 'posess' her either.

I'm trying to think of what I may have done to cause this distancing.

She flat out told me my H doesn't treat me right. I know he is demanding - but that has never interfered with our friendship before. I know she thinks he has a spending addiction, which is now something DH and I are truley working on. I know she was upset when we decided to have our dog put down in Sept, it was too expensive for us to have the dog treated, with no guarentees that she would be ok. Her dogs are the world to her. I loved my dog, but after all, she was a dog...

I dumped all my frustration on her about our financial shi****and she was supportive, but now it's like she doesn't want me to spend any money on our lunching...

I'm trying to figure out if I've hurt her feelings in some way...I'm afraid to ask. I really miss our time together. Though I'd apologize and mean it....

What do I do? We used to see each other every week, now maybe once a month. She almost always has an excuse why she can't do something with me. She is the only person I see and the only person I have as a friend. In the summer there are several other not so close friends we 'hang' with, but no one I know really well or call a close friend.

I'm really hurting and want to do what I can to repair this relationship. I try to meet other people, but that is really hard for me. I know that is one thing I really need to do to make me a better person.

Any advise?