Wise advice from KathyM. I'm going to speculate by using my intuitive instincts but I could be wrong. First I wanted to say what I tell my girls - don't rely on 1 friend - have a few, that way if the friendship fails, you don't feel as devastated and lost.

This will be long but bare with me. I've noticed in some of your threads the last few months, that you're really working on yourself with weight loss, exercise and if I remember correctly, you feel happier. I get the impression from your description, that your friend knows a great deal about what you've go through and probably she took on the 'role' of helper.

Have you ever heard of women who go through drastic weight loss and they find their partners struggle with the changes - this is because some how the weight and the challenges bonded them in a dysfunctional sort of way. So your friend took on the role of helper/problem solver - but now that you're in a better place, you don't need her in that capacity and that's why you feel uncomfortable with her stressing her opinions now.

The thing is - she may not even realize this is happening. She might be feeling a slight resentment because you don't take her advice or seem to need it. TBO she shouldn't be dissing your husband or giving her disapproval of your decisions.

I think you should be gently honest and ask her if anythings bothering her? I think you're just in a better place and the friendship is evolving. If I were you I wouldn't act to worried because it sounds like your friend has the upper hand in the friendship - you don't want to give her anymore control. She sounds like she has too much say already lol. Are you and hubby in financial counseling - I think every couple should take financial counseling.