I agree with sugahorse, you really need to learn your own body first and how to pleasure it before you even try to have someone else pleasure it because you won't know what you like so you can't tell them how to do it. You need to explore yourself more sexually and be open about toys in your life maybe. This is all if you are comfortable with it. Find your sexual fantasies that you really enjoy and bring them into the forefront of your mind when your masturbating or something. See how that works. If that stuff doesn't help then I would suggest talking to your gynecologist. Best of luck to you.