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Originally Posted by Muser
Madi...we've talked about it before....I guess we can't control that initial out of control feeling. I knew to come here for help and thanks to you all...I fell better now.
My goal is to prevent emotional overload in the first place. Is that possible?? I had the urge to confront the situation head on....but didn't. I think that is the only way to conquer the fear.
I'm torn between avoidance and aggression....
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muser  you can be assertive rather than aggressive. sometimes i find also that not responding at all is powerful. but the key is to let "it" go. once you've not responded don't ruminate in your mind. get busy, go out to lunch away from the office, etc. and SMILE. that will confuse them...  ..and lift your spirits too.
and you can start your day over anytime you please. 
this experience can help you grow. i know it's very painful but you can learn new coping skills to minimize your reaction to triggers. i have had to do the same as you know.
keep us posted on how u are doing, k?
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