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Dec 04, 2010, 03:55 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi - Good for you!! I'm glad you did some reading on the subject. I too was the victim of domestic violence - mental and psychological. I was married for 26 years to this man, and by the time I got out of the marriage, I had NO self-esteem or self-worth at all. He had really done a number on me - but of course I had let him too. I was too afraid of him to put a stop to it.
After we separated, I got some counseling, and my therapist was able to help me get my power back - and while my ex tried to harass me, he found out i wasn't going to put up with it anymore. He wasn't too happy. In fact it infuriated him.  He stalked me, bought a house right around the corner from me to keep an eye on me, called me each and every night in the middle of the night - so I sold the house and moved out of town! Boy did THAT tick him off! teehee. I had finally won.
Sometimes after the separation and divorce, things get even worse because the 'man' gets angry. If I were you, I wouldn't offer him any more information because he may try to use it against you. You may also want to think about counseling because even if the marriage is BAD, we still grieve for the loss. I went thru counseling and it really helped. It also helps to keep you from making the same mistake again. 
If there are children involved, make sure they receive counseling if they're old enough. This is traumatic for them too - especially them.
Best of luck to you and God bless. Take care!! Hugs, Lee
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