I knew my T before she was my T. I called her Dr.XXX once. She didn't answer she knew I was refering to her but it was almost like the Dr. in front of her name made it unrecognizable. She was honestly perplexed. So I call her by her first name. My Pdoc is more complicated. She has two last names. Any written things from her are very formal and have her (very long) full name. Her receptionist refers to her as Dr.XXX and drops the second last name. My T calls my Pdoc by her first name. I doubt tht my Pdoc cares what I call her so long as it can be used in polite company . So... when in doubt, opt out...I don't use her name!

My T calls me by my first name on occasion, usually to get my attention as I have wandered off topic. I always jump nearly out of the couch which she finds amusing. The one that gets me though is when she uses a shortend version of my name. She always says it in a very soft, gentle voice and it almost always makes me cry.

I also think it is really funny that when my T calls me her name comes up on my caller ID. If she is at home it comes up as private and she is the only person it does that with. So... I always answer with Hi and then her first name. There is always a significant pause before she then thells me this is and then uses her first and last name. Ok, one, she knows that she is the only person I know with that first name and two, as if I didn't know her voice!!!!