Hi conklinca,

Perhaps it would have been best if I had not replied to your post, but, I think, you come across to me as someone that is a nice caring person in pain and that makes me want to help you in whatever way I can.

I really don't knpw if anything I say will be helpful, but it does come from the heart. I know, men can be such jerks, but not all men. Some of us are really good people. Good and bad, well, they come in both sexes.

I guess it is normal in a way, for one to look at the other, it doesn't take long for one sex to know how the other looks and all that. Especially when one has been taken advantage of.

I went thru a time I couldn't help but think what a girl looked like without clothing (ok, this was when I first learned their was a difference) but I moved on. I still, notice them, but I think that is normal (or so I hope). But, I don't want to have sex with them just because I am attracted to them. She would have to mean something special to me and it would also have to be a feeling she shared.

I hope you find some answers, or better still, a way of resolving this.

Sam

"You'll never know what you're capable of if you don't try."