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Originally Posted by madisgram
muser  you can be assertive rather than aggressive. sometimes i find also that not responding at all is powerful. but the key is to let "it" go. once you've not responded don't ruminate in your mind. get busy, go out to lunch away from the office, etc. and SMILE. that will confuse them...  ..and lift your spirits too.
and you can start your day over anytime you please. 
this experience can help you grow. i know it's very painful but you can learn new coping skills to minimize your reaction to triggers. i have had to do the same as you know.
keep us posted on how u are doing, k? |
Thanks Madi. I have to work on those coping skills. I know one thing and that's that I don't have to explain my life to anyone.....least of all them. I'm happy with it and that's all that matters.
Without going into detail...I have never in my life had anything bother me and stay with me like this has. I don't understand it. If I had a T maybe I could get to the root of it.
Today I had a visit from a friend I've had since grade school. She has known me forever. We talked about it a bit but I always get emotional. I was trying to explain what happened at work in regards to what happened before and I get all tongue tied and twisted. Never...even when I was married have I ever been so blown away by such a stupid thing. I just don't get it.
My desire is to just put it behind me and forget it.