If I can guess at what is happening based on my own experience of being a probable borderline--you always have a reason to REALLY REALLY need your boyfriend if his attention isn't primarily on you. If I can make another assumption, it doesn't matter what your boyfriend would give as his reason for not spending time with you--you would still find a way to link it to you being the problem. You claim your boyfriend isn't trying as you tried to make him happy, but I bet if you could hear him, you would learn he views this differently. You said he wouldn't spend time with you, but also said you "didn't want to hang out with a few people that i am not completely comfortable with." You apparently chose not to spend time with him because it couldn't be on your terms, but cannot see it that way without deciding that you are a bad person, which you are not. It is not that your boyfriend needs work to understand and be there for you--it is that your perceptions need work to even know when he is there for you. For that, you should probably seek a therapist.