wisewoman you are not "making this up". It is tangible the amount of stress you are under right now.

I really like the idea of a bath and candles. Also of getting a massage.

You have several things going on here... take care of them individually. Sounds like your daughter is finally pretty well set. Let the facility bear the brunt of taking care of that now, of course you will be involved but the biggest hurdles seem to be cleared.

I understand how you feel about work but at some point you just have to step back and say "I'm doing what I can AND I'm not doing more than that AND I am not going to feel guily or worry about that." I understand about the files but people will make due. Of course they will miss you but you have to take care of yourself. Trying to go to work through this is not an optiom, so don't treat it as if it is one, i.e. worry that you should be there, what's going on there, etc.

Do as much as you can to stop worrying about work, so it doesn't just become counterproductive to your healing. If you can, just stop thinging about work whenever a work related thing comes into your head. Just get the thought "STOP!" in your head or even say it out loud, then say "That is not a concern right now" and move on to other thoughts.

Best of luck with the doctor, stress, family, work... hope it all falls into place for you soon and you are able to cope and do well.