Thanks all for posting some advise. No, hubby and I aren't in c. But I'm working on being more responsible to learning how he does the
'b u d g e t". I am using that word loosly because what we have isn't a real buget. anyway, we are able to work at it in ways we haven't before, so that is good but still needs way more working/cooperation.

The only 2 things I can think of that may really be bugging my friend is my weight loss and her telling me out right to "stop" - thatI've lost enough already. and I was sharing with her about my sister's relatives death, by drug overdose....my friend is a recovering alcholic 14 years sober....

I was telling of the sort of life this person had as a youngster, having grown up in a family where both parents were severe alcoholics. I may have touched on a nerve or two there. I know I can ask her if that has hurt her feeling, the way I discribed the situation. I felt an immediate negative energy while stating that. We are so very open about all that. She had an alcohoic father and grew up without him emotionally...and then he was murdered.

But the weight lose thing may be what she thinks is for my own good. I have the support of my doctors and weight loss specialists to keep lossing. I'm firm about what I am doing as far as my weight/health choices are, that her opinion of me stopping, is just that, her opinion. She has started to loose some weight over that past 2 months, so I know she wants to do that.

When we were out shopping recently, and I picked out my new coat, I asked her, does this one make my stomach stick out? She stated back, "you don't ask that of a gal who has a big gut".

Or on other shopping lunch fun days, she makes fun of herself with comments like, "I need to go to the lard and lovely department", in a good natured way, or more recently, when we do our window shopping, she picks the opposite of what I pick and says she watches the TV show What Not to Wear and that us short gals can't wear that style.... She does have an eye for what makes her look good.

She did say she isn't jealous of my weight loss, so that has nothing to do with her telling me to STOP! But that she thinks older women who loose weight look bad. saggy skin, drawn faces, etc.... That's okay with me if I get healthier. In our last phone converstation she said, "I'm not trying to cut you off, but I can't do such and such because I have to _________ ".

"We'll talk on Facebook". She did want to know about things concerning our new adopted dog though, like that is what it's ok to talk about with her. Control? But to me it seems like she is cutting me off.

I guess I need to just talk to her. Or do it on FB like she said!

Thanks for listening....guys/gals... and I know I want more friends. It just isn't happening even though I can be outgoing and comfortable around people, it just isn't easy to meet people who I can call up or invite to lunch.