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Dec 05, 2010, 12:57 PM
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Member Since: Dec 2010
Location: Over the Rainbow
Posts: 62
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Originally Posted by byfnvy
The video may be a trigger.. it certainly made me cry and brought back memories, although I was merely physically punnished as a child out of love and without any lasting physical wounds.
I also felt bad watching the end because I didn't really suffer that much and I always knew my parents loved me, yet I still ended up like this.. I can't really blame my parents for hitting me as a child (only on the legs), though I am somewhat tempted to.. it even seems like a completely different reality because I can't imagine them doing that now.
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I saw the video till the end, and there are definitely triggers. I heard about the campaign on Facebook. I'm not exactly sure what the purpose is of switching human faces for cartoons. Maybe I'm just dumb so feel free to enlighten me if you know. 
Byfnvy, your comments about your situation make me very sad. It's a common misconception that abuse and love don't go together. So many abusive parents truly believe the abuse is out of love, but that doesn't make it right.
Please listen to your heart. I think your "temptation" to blame them is telling you something. "Ending up like this" is also telling you something. Are you getting some help from a counselor or therapist? If not, can you? Is there someone around who will just listen without judgment? Journaling can also help.
Please allow yourself to get angry and be as "childish" about it as you want to be for as long as you need to be. Personally it took me the better part of a year to get through the anger I felt towards my parents' emotional abuse. I kept hearing voices in my head telling me I was blaming my parents for my problems, but I kept reminding myself that even if I was, it was OK to do that for a while.
Eventually, I learned to understand why they behaved the way they did and also to honor my anger and the very real destructive consequences that came of it. My former therapist told me that using "and" rather than "but" can help: "I know you loved me and you didn't mean to hurt me and you did!"
Stay strong!
Rainbow 
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