I loved that, geez. Thank you! I even liked just the first bullet list of points. I agree with ALL of them! I'm going to post the bullet list here because I think it's so on the mark. I think if I were looking for a therapist again, I could hand them this list and ask what they thought of it, and if they disagreed with a lot of the statements, I would know they were not the T for me.
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Psychotherapy: A Special Kind of Love
• Psychotherapeutic Eros is a unique form of love.
• This flow of love from therapist to client releases the client's potential for positive change.
• Every client both wants and fears to change.
• Love often requires the therapist to do the opposite of what the client expects.
• The notion of transference is a way of denying real feelings.
• Clients should shop smartly to find the right therapist.
• Therapists can't help someone who has the same problems they have, or whose value system fundamentally conflicts with theirs.
• Conversely, therapists do love the unloveable -- when they connect with the client's vulnerability.
• Fees are one of the characteristics that distinguish Psychotherapeutic Eros from other forms of love.
• The purpose of therapy is to free clients to love themselves and other people.
• Women clients do not automatically fall in love with their male therapists -- though many of the latter like to believe it's a fact.
• Therapy love, while flowing from therapist to client, is also reciprocal, and has positive effects on the therapist, too.
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