"Counterbalancing these horrors was the therapist's love: his acceptance of her as a person, his refusal to agree that she was evil, and especially his validation that her perceptions were true, all contributed to her growth in self-confidence and self-acceptance. Counterbalancing these horrors was the therapist's love: his acceptance of her as a person, his refusal to agree that she was evil, and especially his validation that her perceptions were true, all contributed to her growth in self-confidence and self-acceptance."
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Originally Posted by Eileen2010
This part blew me away....I just realized why my old T ended up being a huge mistake, and why I fell deeper into depression. He insisted I was demon possessed, re-enforcing my own belief that I was evil. Wow...tons of light-bulbs just went off in my brain.
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((Eileen)) I'm so sorry to hear that your old T treated you the way he did.
The above quote struck a cord with me too. When I think back to all the negative things I've thought about my T and then I read the above quote
. My T has never said I was a bad person even though I thought she would have for some of the things I've said to her/shared. Sometimes in my head during an appt I think to myself: "I'm totally afraid to say this because she is going to think I'm a terrible person and she is going to kick me out of therapy or refer me to someone else - I've never shared anything 'this bad' with her before."... and of course she proves that it's all in my head and she will not abandon me.
I feel like so far I've lucked out with my T. If I ever need another T I will be sure to print out the list as well
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