Hi~I've been very consumed by anxiety, the fear of non-existence, & lack of competence in the past months (ok, since I was 4). I live alone & my bf broke up with me...so my ultimate fears have been realized.

The only thing that ever helped me overcome anything was to let go of the outcome -- basically to stop controlling everything, or "give up" my expectations. Only when I reach the bottom could I start trusting again.

SO my new schtick is to do these self affirmations, listed below; personally mine are all supported by my faith & trust, but of course any sort of faith would work (eg faith/trust in self).*I think of these whenever I feel like I'm not good enough, like walking to class, etc*

***I know that other people must have some good affirmations that I'm missing, so I'm hoping that you all will be able to "share the wealth" of your self-esteem knowledge.***
[mine are in the "you" context...I forget if it's 1/2/3 context]

1. stop basing your self-worth & value on others' approval & opinions/judgments of you, & reactions to you...
2. Know that you will always be a good person no matter what you do/achieve...
3. ...& that you don't have to prove your "goodness" to yourself or others
4. know this because you have strong traits of _____, ____, _____, _____, etc. {mine: kindness, conscientiousness, intelligence, perseverance, & beauty--mind/body,etc}

***so #2 could be seen as allowing any negative behavior w/o reflecting on your wrongs, but for me it's solely about self-acceptance & trust in both my character & conscientious reflection (in #4).
****Also, #4 is kind of idealistic, so I picked what I believe that I have & fear that I'll lose, again as trust.