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Hi - You aren't the reason he drink. He drinks because he MIGHT have a drinking problem. Anyone who acts differently, and does stupid things, or stays things they wouldn't normally say just MIGHT have a drinking problem. The booze changes them - it's not how MUCH they drink - it's what the booze does to them. People who only drink on weekends can still be alcoholics. It doesn't even matter how often you drink. If it changes you, and you drink to numb the inner pain than you probably have a problem.
He's making all kinds of excuses for his drinking - which an alcoholic always does. An alcoholic will NOT take responsibility for his actions -- it's always someone else's fault. Someone or something else makes them drink. And no one else can make them STOP. You can nag, plead, beg, bribe, get down on your knees - and you still can't make them stop. An alcoholic can only stop drinking for HIMSELF. And HE has to make that decision -- and it probably won't come until he's hit bottom -- and that can be very deep. In fact some people don't live long enough to hit it.
You should go to Al-Anon to learn how to deal with him without enabling him, and without nagging too. You don't want to lose yourself to the disease either. You need to have your own life aside from his problem. You can still live in the same household, but you've got to learn how to deal with the disease - and Al-Anon will show you how. Please go to a meeting and I'm sure you'll like it. You'll learn alot.
I wish you both the best of luck. God bless. Hugs, Lee
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