Jazzy,

I understand the pain you have. My dad many, many times yelled at, criticized, or made fun of me until i got upset and/or cried, while my mom sat nearby and said and did nothing -- as though it wasn't really happening or it didn't matter to her. Even when i woudl leave the room crying and go to my own room, she didn't come in to try to soothe me or help me understand the situation. It would often happen when my dad was drinking.

I so well understand why a situation like this would be painful to you. As little kids, we look to our parents for protection. When one of them acts in a way that feels scary/threatening, we look to the other one to help. When that doesn't happen, we feel very bad and alone. I hope you can keep talking about this with your t so you can find some relief.