I just want to update y'all that have replied....((((ty)))) I have decided to stay with my boyfriend...he is TOO wonderful....together, at out apt...we have made it very cozy....and scraped the plans to go to either familiy...isnt that selfish!!!!!!! and wicked...we may invite my 85 year old neighbor over for dinner as she is alone......for dinner......anyway thank you for the support...always so calming to know someone cares..xo S.