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In my opinion there is a natural order to things, you end one relationship before you begin another.
I fall into the catagory that if there is blame to be had, it is on him. He is the one with a commitment to another. Further he had so little respect for his wife (or for you for that matter) that he brought another woman into HER home. That is a very bold move. I would be wondering how many other women he brought there before me. I hope you used protection.
I am not judging you in the least, if it were not you it would be someone else. He was looking for a warm body to scratch an itch. He sounds like he's an expert at this.
It makes me very sad that you may see this as something more. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but this was sex, lust, nothing more. Making love is a completely different experience. It involves, well love for one thing, communication, commitment, respect amoung others.
You cannot change what is past. But remember this feeling. Use it. Reflect upon why you are willing to settle for someone that did even show you even basic courtesy. You deserve more than that.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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