I got my dishes done today (most of them) and my kitchen and bathroom clean as well. I feel more like a functioning human being because of this and now am looking forward to decorating for Christmas and not feeling so overwhelmed. Thank you for all the tips and support. I am also looking into why I go into a non functioning mode after my mom visits. I know it's because I try so hard and do so much before she comes and while she's here. The week after is pretty awful though and want to figure out how to make it not so bad.