I am so glad to hear one of you will be able to get in to see her each day. It matters, even if she is angry in the moment, the month, even then year. It matters in the long run, even if it is very rocky and feels emotionally risky now.

Part of the reason I suggested the notes is that it's likely that she will be mad at you...but there are a lot of reasons for that, and one that can be eliminated, over time, is guilt and shame. The notes would help with that.