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Originally Posted by irishgirl4
I don't want my mom to watch my kids. She is a major trigger for me. She upsets me very, very, very, much, She was yelling at me yesterday, accusing me of "not letting her in". Well, yep, I don't want her in. I don't trust her. She put me in an abusive home as a child, without protecting me. She is a good grandma, but every time I see her I fight with her (which I don't need right now).
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Family can be a huge trigger for alot of us, it is often something that you can work through and find ways to cope with the behavior that triggers you, remember that they rarely change...
I'm sorry for being harsh, but sometimes we have to do things that we don't want to do, and if your mum is good to your kids, and you getting help is good for you and your kids, then maybe you should do what is good for both your kids and yourself...
Can you call a truce with your mum, say that you are having a hard time and can she not (whatever upsets you)... "Now is not a good time, can we talk about this when I'm feeling better...."