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Dec 08, 2010, 12:00 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi - You are alot like I used to be. You would think that I had "walk on me" tattooed on my head, because everyone was always using me for a doormat! And I allowed it because I'm very shy - and I didn't have the guts to stand up for myself.  Even my husband used me and walked all over me. I couldn't even stand up to HIM because I would "keep the peace at all costs."
I found a therapist who was just fantastic. She wasn't one of those who just sat and stared at me, and said "uh huh" once in awhile. She gave me feedback, and talked to me. There's a saying that I like: pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Well, I was suffering and not doing a darn thing about it. My therapist gave me my POWER back. She showed me what I had to do to get it back --- and I did it. I no longer am the shy little wallflower - I stand up for my rights; if I don't like or want something - like working on holidays, I'm going to let someone KNOW about it in no uncertain terms!!
You can get your power back too - but you've got to decide to quit giving it away first. You've got to KNOW that you are just as GOOD as anyone else, and just as deserving as the next guy/gal. NO ONE is better than you!! We are all the SAME. You CAN stand up for yourself -- if I can do it, you sure can.  So stand tall, know that you're just as good as, and speak up! You won't be sorry. God bless you - and have a fantastic life! Hugs, Lee
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