does your boyfriend know you are a survivor. one of My boyfriends years ago was a great help to me at times. I would pull away from touching him or whatever we were doing and he would stop and turn on the light and get right in front of me and say "its me and say his name and pointout the obvious differences (weight and so on). so that I could reconnect with him instead of letting it pass and end up pulling us farther apart. Other times when we "got busy" he would make a point of talking to me so that I could stay connected to him and the here and now. We ended up breaking up due to my moving 3000 miles away, and the long distance phone relationship just wasnt doing it for us. But he was definately a keeper if I hadn't had to move for safety from my abuser. Talk with your boyfriend and maybe the two of you can put together and emergency list of things to so, say and so on for when this kind of thing happens agains