I agree with the comment above me.. it is about control and yes the masochistic or submisissve (I don't think if you are have to be the other, not all submissive like pain etc) person is the one in control, they determine when the dominant stops or has reached the submissive limits. The dominant has to go by this, thereby the submissive is in the one who is really in charge lol. and yes a sense of empowerment !!

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