I'll try to add a little color. From the moment I met her all she talked about was marriage and children (she was 36 at the time and her biological clock was ticking), to be honest I was not all that enamored with getting married again. I was divorced from someone else before we met.

But out relationship was so good that I couldn't see any reason not to give her what she wanted - yes, I loved her. She would constantly tell me that I was her hero and we were two peas in a pod.

I think the trouble actually started when our first child was born - the reality of parenthood and staying home with a baby was difficult for her as it is with any first time parent. She absolutely had to have a second so we did - girl and now a boy. After our son was born she clearly had post-partum depression and things headed downhill. She wanted to sell the house and move away - closer to her parents. Unfortunately, this was when the housing market started to bottom and despite some offers the house did not sell. At this point I think she just wanted to walk out but instead she began talking about how much she didn't love me and I wasn't the love of her life. We agreed that more time together as a family might help - all I do is work and come home so it's not like I wasn't there everyday after work and on weekends. But, I was able to get my employer to put me on part-time for four months - so I was home Friday, Saturday, Sunday and Monday every week. I had to take a loan to pull it off but it was a very good time and we grew closer - I thought.

After I went back to work full-time it didn't take long for everything to begin again.

In January of 2009 she took a job writing for a local newspaper (she is very well educated with a masters in journalism). I think she began to see this as her way out, even though she didn't make much money she squirrelled away every penny of it. By May of 2009 she stopped talking to me and I began the single parent piece, she was always out working on an article - nights, weekends every available moment she could, she did. By July I was a wreck everytime I walked into the house after work - never knew what I'd find. She might stay around for awhile or she might leave immediately - if she stayed around it was at the furthest point away from me that she could find.

By August things just got worse and worse - and either I was in complete denial or just stupid. The one thing I never envisioned was her leaving - it was against every principal she believed in - "family is everything" is her family's motto. When she typed a letter to me telling me she and the kids were leaving I was in shock - no discussion, nothing. She had visited her parents a couple of times for a week at a time during August which was not out of the ordinary - during this time she had found a job and a place to live to seal it.

One of the worst things I've ever had to do is to let the kids go. What she did was illegal (can't up and leave and take them out of state) and I could have stopped her from taking them - she would have left anyway.

I have no family and no support system in place, so the kids would be in daycare all day while I work. She was going where a support system was in place - her parents, the kids aunts and uncles, cousins. Them leaving was the worst possible outcome for me - but at least the kids would be safe and well cared for.

"She is a master at not letting anyone know what is going on inside of her." I wonder if the two of them are twins separated at birth.

My children were 3 and 6 when she left and are now 4 and 7. I miss them everyday. Life went from being good for the first time to being an everyday nightmare.

When I knew things were really bad, I'd pray that everything would be ok. No matter how I felt I didn't want to lose the kids. I'm pretty sure I stopped loving her when she started treating me as if I didn't exist but it didn't matter I just wanted it to work.

Now, I will be the first to admit that I definitely don't love her, in fact I probably hate her but I don't spend a lot of time thinking about it.

You asked about how far she pushed away - all the way. As far as describing her in more detail - I think you have a pretty good picture.

As soon as she left she immediately lost weight and joined multiple online dating services - since we still shared the same checking account I saw the entries.

The line she used was "I want to take a different path" - it's pretty amazing to me because it sure looks like the same old path to me. And I get to pay for it all.

Oh, by the way mine is an extreme drama queen. It's all about her, all of the time.

I hope things get better for you.